Soul Rebel 365

Life is short.  When you are young it feels like everything will last forever.  I certainly thought that but approaching 30 my life has gone through amazing changes that I never thought I would have to live through.  I lost my mom in 2004, she was healthy, no signs of illness it was very unexpected. I was only 23 at the time.  All of a sudden all the things I had imagined in my mind about her meeting the woman I would end up marrying or being a great grandmother to my future kids, all that had dissipated. Vanished, never to happen.
Now that I am leaving for a year I realize that I can’t take the people that are around me for granted.  Mainly my family.  I learned something important this past week that is very poignant in my development.  I have this big project I am trying to accomplish which is good but I can’t be so focused on it long with my film projects and neglect my family and my close relationships.  I think our immediate responsibility is family.  However family is defined in your life because sometimes we build a family not through blood but through the strong bonds of love and sacrifice.

We can’t go around saving the world or achieving our greatest dreams and neglect those that have been there for us.  We see it all times in the news with public figures when their lives unravel before our eyes.  The empire that is being built will come crumbling down overnight because it wasn’t built with the proper building blocks.  I’ll challenge people that whoever it is in your life that you need to make peace with go and do it now.  We all have those in our lives and it’s better to clear the air now because who knows what will happen in the future.  You don’t want that guilt holding on to you for the rest of your life.  It’s not worth it. Sometimes our loved ones need us to be a pillar in their life and we have to be there for them.  No matter how inconveniencing we think it is to us or the instability we feel in our lives we can manage to be that pillar for them it is worth it.  Not that we entertain hangers on, that’s not what I am talking about, I am talking about those that we feel genuinely need our support and love.

Life is about growing and becoming a better person, we achieve this in various stages in our lives.  Just like in school, you get passing grades and move to the next class, the same too in our life. If we skip grades it is going to come back and hunt us later.  Life is an imperfect process that revolves around people.  Sometimes we are wronged by those people or they didn’t develop our relationships the way we wanted them too whether it’s their fault or not but it is never too late to start.  If the other person doesn’t respond to your efforts of reaching out then that’s OK because at least you have peace knowing that when it was up to you, you did the right thing all that’s all you can ever do it life, is to do your best.

We are flawed in our own way and it’s the love that we have that makes us cope with those flaws, it covers over those imperfections. Reach out.  Regardless of what the circumstances are at least starting a dialogue is a good place to start.  Don’t hold up your blessings in life because of unfinished business because there is a hurt in your life that you can’t overcome.  Reach out and make it good, for the betterment of yourself and for the betterment of those that you love and deeply care about.

Peace and love.